Your first dance as a married couple is an iconic moment, and choosing the right song that suits you both is essential.  It is such a different experience for every couple, some couples know their song immediately, for others, it’s a minefield.  The main thing to remember is that it is about the two of you, being yourselves, and enjoying the moment.

Some first dance songs will have a significant meaning for the couple – perhaps a song that was playing a lot when you met, or when you shared your first kiss.  Some couples choose a song that reminds them of an event, a concert, festival, holiday or special occasion.  Others choose a song to fit with the theme or style of the wedding, if your wedding has a vintage feel then a classic swing or crooner classic would suit.

If you are wanting something classically romantic, then the first dance will have romance or love at its heart, or why not choose a song from your favourite band or artist?

Many couples assume that their first dance song needs to be very romantic and emotional, but that Is not the case, it can be anything you choose and that is meaningful to you.

A few things to bear in mind when you are choosing your song – if you are having a band will they be able to play the song?  Asking a jazz band to play a rock song or your 90’s band to play The Way You Look Tonight may be tricky if your song isn’t in their standard repertoire of music.  Most bands have the more popular dance songs in their repertoire, but if you want to choose something special to you that isn’t in their range, you can ask them if they can learn the song before you make your final decision.

In saying that, don’t discount the song just because the band can’t play it.  If you really want to use that particular song, you can always use an iPod, or CD for that special moment.  Alternatively, if someone you know is a great singer or musician, it may be an option to ask them to perform the song for you.  They would certainly consider it an honour and it would make your first dance all the more personal.

Another important factor to take into consideration is, are you able to dance to the song?  For those that don’t like being the centre of attention, you might be dreading your first dance, or perhaps you are looking forward to showing off some fancy footwork! Either way, make sure you know ahead of the big day what you will be doing for your first dance. – whether that is a romantic shuffle, an energy-filled boogie, or a choreographed routine, be sure to practice in advance, to the music, so you know what you will be doing on the day.

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